Friday, February 18, 2011 7:30pm
at The Women’s Building San Francisco

One of Queen Cougar’s favorite quotes is: The Love in your heart wasn’t put there to stay.. love isn’t love…till you give it away. In this month that celebrates Love and the opportunity to give and receive love – it seems appropriate to include the element of love within the context of Sadomasochism.

This program will feature examples and demonstrations of a specific intense type of dynamic between some BDSM players. In this case a femme sadist top – interacting with bottoms or submissives in a loving way, in a scene with the bottoms experiencing anticipation, struggle, trust, but most definitely through multiple elements of intensity and pain.

Femme tops – however they dress, or adorn themselves or whatever their style of interaction in the SM lifestyle may be, have always been objects of desire in the BDSM world. It is their ability to entice with their personal power and their sexual energy that causes us to fall in love with them and the magic they share with us. It is said that femmes are often the most scary and intense in what has been described as “the pain game.”

This session will include opportunities for questions and answers coming from participants. If it seems that your search for fulfilling opportunities to enjoy rough sex and intense pain being dealt from the hands of a Femme Mistress, Domme or Top – has not been fruitful – or if you are a femme top who wants to “push the ticket” in a loving way… this workshop may provide some clues to help you with this goal. If you just get wet and hot and bothered – then our work here is done!

Queen Cougar

Queen Cougar is a dynamic workshop presenter, leather activist, & veteran entertainer of numerous BDSM events. She is a top female emcee with IML, Drummer, International Leather Sir/boy & International Community Bootblack leading numerous other leather events within her resume. In 1993 she was Ms. Headquarters Leather, Ms. San Francisco Leather & 1st runner-up at International Ms. Leather. Ms.Cougar was the “Pantheon of Leather” Reader’s Choice “Woman Of The Year 2000”. Featured in “Bloodsisters”, “Safe, Sane & Consensual” & “Kink Crusaders” (Leather / BDSM Videos), the Queen is an associate of C.O.M.M.A.N.D., ONYX, The Philadelphians, NJ Andromeda, T.U.L.S.A, a member of the SF Imperial Court, Mama’s Family & the Exiles of SF. In 2010 she was the female SF Leather Pride Grand Marshall.

Program Meeting Info

  • Programs are on the 3rd Friday of the month at the Women’s Building in San Francisco (3543 – 18th Street at Valencia) [map]
  • All women (and those whose gender self-identity is other than male) who are over 18 are welcome.
  • We have sign language interpreters at all of our meetings.
  • Door fees are $4 for members and $10 for non-members. Please have your membership card or ID ready to speed entry.
  • The program runs from 8:00 – 10:00pm and the doors open at 7:30pm.

Directions to The Women’s Building

Public Transit
BART: The Women’s Building is close to 16th street BART. Special note: one side-effect of gentrification in the Mission is that there are a lot of people on the streets between The Women’s Building and the BART station – all nice safe people going to one of the many new local restaurants. You’ll probably feel safe walking the few blocks from 16th Mission BART and The Women’s Building.

The 22 Fillmore runs down 16th Street. Get off at 16th & Valencia and walk two blocks to The Women’s Building.
The 14 Mission runs along Mission Street. Get off at 17th or 18th and walk 1-1/2 blocks to TWB.

Driving Directions
Driving from Marin County –
Take the Golden Gate Bridge (101 South) to Lombard Street.
Turn right on Gough (if you get to Van Ness, you went 2 blocks too far).
Take Gough all the way to Market Street. Stay in the center lane.
Turn right onto Market, then a quick left onto Valencia.
Go to 18th Street and look for parking, or continue to 21st for the parking garage. (For fewer hills but more stop lights: from Lombard Street, turn right onto Van Ness instead of Gough, and follow the directions above.)

Parking Garage
Street parking is difficult in this neighborhood. There is an inexpensive locked parking garage available on 21st St. between Valencia and Mission and 16th and on Hoff St between Mission and Valencia.