Tuesday May 26, 2020    
7:00 pm - 8:00 pm


n/a, virtual

Event Type


Available Only for Exiles Members and Patreon Patrons

Many of us in the Leather, Kink, BDSM, Master slave communities participate in relationships with more than one person.   While having multiple partners in your life can bring joy and fulfillment, the path can also be tricky to navigate at times.  Tomo will share her thoughts and experience as we examine the joys of multiple partners as well as what the challenges may be during this moderated participatory discussion.   We will discuss making the choice to have multiple partners, different types and definitions of poly, essentials for success, and common challenges and solutions.

This is a virtual event, click the Zoom button below to join.


The meeting will require a password. The password will be emailed to Exiles members and Patreon patrons the day before the event.

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Message from the Presenter:

Poly with Tomo
Dirty stories (and advice)
To tease and inspire
… A Haiku written by my boy Levi, because part of doing poly well is knowing how to make use of skills.
  • A Bit About Me…
  • Poly Defined in Many Ways 
  • The Essentials
    • Start from a good place 
    • Negotiation 
    • Honesty 
    • Trust 
    • Compassion 
    • Respect 
    • Compersion 
    • Communication 
    • Flexibility 
    • Be in the moment 
  • The Challenges 
  • The Joys 
  • Discussion and Questions


About our Presenter

Tomo is a butch leatherdyke who found the leather community during a sunset motorcycle ride with her life partner Mel over 25 years ago and has presented classes, produced events, served as a judge, keynote speaker, and emcee at leather events since. Tomo has been served by her boy levi for over 10 years and fulfilled to be a part of a chosen leather family. 

 As a supporter of many in the leather community, she is often endearingly called Daddy Tomo.  She is a Producer of Northwest Leather Celebration, the Northwest Master slave, Northwest Bootblack, Northwest Person of Leather, and Ms Sacramento Leather Contests.   Tomo served along with Ms Rhonda as Northwest Master and slave 2015 and International Master and slave 2016.  She was a Producer of International Ms Leather Weekend for seven years and is a founding member of the Dyke Uniform Corps.  Tomo is the Director of MAsT: Sacramento, is a member and serves as Webmaster for Queer Leather Association Sacramento, is the West Coast Curator for the Leather Quilt Project, and is a member of MAsT: San Francisco, and The Exiles. She was awarded the Pantheon of Leather President’s Award in 2013 and the Master slave Conference slave Heart Award in 2018.