Friday May 19, 2017    
7:30 pm - 10:30 pm


Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission St, San Francisco, California, 94544

Event Type

What is so hot about our favorite sexy fairy tales?  What happens when we enact them? What can we learn about ourselves, each other?  Who do we get to be? Good Daddy, Bad Mommy, Brat, Little Red Riding Hood – as a therapist, I get to explore with a lot of people how these stories, the fantasies we lust after, and our ever-so-hot roleplays inspired by them, can be healing and transformative.  When we are drawn to these dark journeys, how can we travel with respect to emotional safety, how do we figure out where our limits are to be found, and how we will recognize them after we have altered our state of consciousness beyond recognition deep in a dreamy role?  I’m starting in on writing a book about this, with the intent of exploring the deeper meanings, and the enormous diversity of possible experiences.  Come along and let’s talk about your stories, how we can dig into the rich meanings to be found in becoming them, and how we can enact them without blowing ourselves out of the water, but learn to swim in scary delights.

Participants will learn how to look into the fairy tales of our fantasies and develop scripts that make it possible to bring a fantasy into reality by scripting a scene, with full regard for the emotional safety for all participants, that we can enact as a journey to our inner selves and view in the healing light of Eros.

About our presenter:

Dossie Easton, a long time player on the San Francisco S/M scene, is co-author with Janet Hardy of The Ethical Slut, The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping Book,  When Someone You Love Is Kinky, a book designed to give to inform outsiders about our lifestyle, and Radical Ecstasy:  SM Journeys to Transcendence.

Dossie is a licensed psychotherapist working with individuals,  couples and more in her private practice in San Francisco, with a particular interest in how S/M journeys into Shadow can bring old wounds into the healing light of consciousness and and give them a shot of life force in the form of good hot sex.

An active sex radical since 1961, Dossie was a member of the first Board of Directors of the Society of Janus in San Francisco in 1974, and active with SFSI from 1973 to 1985. Currently she makes her home in the mountains north of San Francisco, travels to teach at conferences all over the world, and wanders through the mountains around her home declaiming filthy poetry to the vultures. You can check out her website at www.dossieeaston.com.

Program Meeting Info

  • All women (and those whose gender self-identification is other than male) who are over 18 are welcome.
  • ASL interpretation available on request. Please contact the co-coordinators at cocos (at) theexiles (dot) org at least a week in advance if you need an ASL interpreter, and one will be provided.
  • Members $5; non-members $10. Please have membership card or ID ready to speed entry.
  • The program runs from 8:00 to about 10:15pm. with socializing at 7:30