May Program: Mindfulness and Flow for Self-tying with Shay Tiziano


Friday May 21, 2021    
8:00 pm - 10:00 pm


n/a, virtual

Event Type

The Exiles is an inclusive and sex positive space for all people who are women, intersex, nonbinary, genderqueer, gender variant, or gender-nonconforming. People who are men are asked not to attend.

Turning off your worries and being fully immersed in the moment can be challenging…especially now. After a brief discussion of safety for self-tying, this session will explore the concept of flow, and how to apply three key aspects of flow states to bring yourself into the present with self-bondage. Free-form spiral-style floor bondage, fluid rope handling, and making self-bondage more intense (some might say “painful”) will be discussed and demonstrated. This session includes optional participatory activities – if you’d like to tie along, recommended supplies include at least two full (approximately 30′) lengths of rope and an appropriate cutting tool.

This is a virtual event.  Please click the link below to register for the event and receive the Zoom link. 


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Our Presenter:

Shay Tiziano is a vivacious femme switch and renowned self-suspender known for their unique, dynamic performances and fun, attainable, and risk-awareness focused approach to bondage education. She is the author of Tying & Flying, the first-ever book about self-suspension. Based in San Francisco, Shay has over a decade of experience presenting across the US and internationally. In her home community (during non-pandemic times), she produces over 20 events a year, including BENT, the Bay Area’s biggest dungeon party, Self-Suspension Open Space, and acclaimed bondage and fetish performance event Twisted Windows.