Why join the Exiles?
Exiles members enjoy these benefits:
- Reduced door fees for all programs
- Discounts on safer sex supplies sold at programs
- Reciprocity with other leather organizations
- Our newsletter, The Lunatic Fringe
- Free personal ads in the newsletter
- The right to vote and become officers
Who Can Join?
All women (and those whose gender self-identity is other than male) who are over 18 are welcome. Local members must attend an Orientation before joining. The requirements are:
- Be a woman or a person whose gender self-identification is other than male
- Be over 18 years of age
- Have a personal and positive interest in bdsm
Will you Accommodate my Special Needs?
I am hard of hearing and in a wheelchair. Can you accommodate my needs? Yes, the facility is wheelchair accessible. The Exiles know that there is a large Deaf Leather community, and we are pleased to offer sign language interpretation at monthly programs and at orientation by arrangement. If you need sign language interpretation, please contact us at least a week before the meeting. To get in touch with us, please drop a line to our Orientation Officer at Orientation Officer (at) theexiles (dot) org.
How to Become a Member
To join as an individual, you must attend Orientation. This costs $10.00 to help with the rental cost for the room (no one turned away for lack of funds). In exchange, we’ll give you a free pass to an Exiles monthly program. To make things faster and easier on everyone, bring small bills if you can. You must bring a legal picture ID with you, for age verification. We start on time and do not admit latecomers, so please plan accordingly. The doors are closed shortly after the meeting begins. If you live outside the area, you can join as an associate without attending an orientation, but you don’t get all the benefits either. Here are the steps to membership:
- Attend an Exiles Orientation
- Sign a Waiver and Liability Release
- Pay annual dues
Membership Types and Dues
Individual: $36.00 per year
Household: $42.00 per year: Two or more members living in the same house.
Hardship: $15.00 per year: Self-defined, for women who are having financial difficulties.
Associate: $18.00 per year
All memberships are due July 1, so if you join in the middle of the year, you pay a pro-rated rate.
Membership for Non-Locals
If you live outside of the Bay Area (outside of these counties: Alameda, Contra Costa, Marin, Napa, Sacramento, San Francisco, San Mateo, Santa Clara, Santa Cruz, Solano, Sonoma) and are unable to attend the Exiles Safety Orientation, you can become an associate of The Exiles. This entitles you to and receive our monthly newsletter, The Lunatic Fringe, and attend Exiles events at the member rate. For more information contact the Membership Officer at membership (at) theexiles (dot) org.
“Reciprocity” means that Exiles members get into events sponsored by reciprocal organizations at their member rate, which can be a significant savings. As of 2015, the Exiles has reciprocity with the following:
- Society of Janus
- Lesbian Sex Mafia (New York)
- Black Rose (DC area)
- Bound By Desire (Austin)
- Bad Girls of Portland
- The Threshold Society (Los Angeles)
Questions? Contact the Membership Officer at membership (at) theexiles (dot) org.