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Munch | Exiles Munch - May 2015

Wednesday May 6, 2015 6:30 PM

Come hang out with the Exiles and enjoy the company of like-minded kinky women, on the first
Wednesday of every month.


FuturePrograms | Leather Families: Putting the Fun in Functional - May 2015

Friday May 15, 2015 7:30 PM

As many of us can attest, the very structure of how nature forms families can be pretty dysfunctional. Two people who often don’t know each other very well produce offspring and everyone spends the next 20 years in therapy.


Beverage Bust | Beverage Bust at the Eagle - May 2015

Sunday May 31, 2015 3:00 PM
Join the Exiles in an all-genders event from 3 to 6pm, as we host a beverage bust at the SF Eagle, 
398 12th Street, San Francisco. $12 gets you all the beer or soda you like, and for an additional
 $5 you get a plate of delicious food cooked by us. Party down with your friends!


Munch | Exiles Munch - June 2015

Wednesday June 3, 2015 6:30 PM

Come hang out with the Exiles and enjoy the company of like-minded kinky women, on the first
Wednesday of every month.


FuturePrograms | TBD - June 2015

Friday June 19, 2015 7:30 PM

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Become A Member

Attending an Orientation is required to become a member. In Orientation, we’ll cover the basics of different kinds of BDSM play. While this by no means will make you a BDSM expert, we want to emphasize that keeping you safe – and keeping those you play with safe – is an important goal of The Exiles. Our main focus is education and safety. [read more]

New to BDSM?

Many people are curious about BDSM but might be a little reluctant to investigate their new found (or old) curiosity. Our Orientation is a fun class that will teach you the BDSM basics and will dispel any myths. You will be made to feel welcomed. However if you’re too shy to meet us in person, checkout out our Resources page and do your research online from the comfort and safety of your home. But if you want to get out of the house and find out what this BDSM stuff is all about, come to our monthly Program or attend an orientation.

Volunteers Needed

Volunteering is a wonderful way to meet new people and serve your community. The Exiles can find a job for you to do. Consider volunteering. It’s a great way to meet interesting people.. [ read more]. Here’s a few events where we can use your willing heart:
  • Our Monthly Programs
  • Play Parties
  • Special events like our Meet & Greet, Carnal Carnival, etc