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News and Events

Program: Industrial Staples - June 2015

Friday June 19, 2015 7:30 PM industrial stapler

Ever pick up an industrial stapler and want to staple your friends? We can teach you how! This play is a combo of sharp and pointy, bloody, and impact.


Upcoming Events

Queer Women of Color Film Festival

The Exiles is once again sponsoring the Queer Women of Color Media Access Project (QWOCMAP) film festival. The Festival is June 12-14 at the Brava Theater, and all events are FREE. We could use a few volunteers; contact Rio <rio (at) theexiles (dot) org>. More info

Leather Marshal

Our own co-coordinator Rio was selected as the female Leather Marshal for the Leather Contingent at the Pride Parade. Watch for her in the parade!  

Become A Member

Attending an Orientation is required to become a member. In Orientation, we’ll cover the basics of different kinds of BDSM play. While this by no means will make you a BDSM expert, we want to emphasize that keeping you safe – and keeping those you play with safe – is an important goal of The Exiles. Our main focus is education and safety. [read more]

New to BDSM?

Many people are curious about BDSM but might be a little reluctant to investigate their new found (or old) curiosity. Our Orientation is a fun class that will teach you the BDSM basics and will dispel any myths. You will be made to feel welcomed. However if you’re too shy to meet us in person, checkout out our Resources page and do your research online from the comfort and safety of your home. But if you want to get out of the house and find out what this BDSM stuff is all about, come to our monthly Program or attend an orientation.

Connect with the Exiles

Voicemail: 415-938-7376 FOLLOW THE EXILES! The Exiles is a 501(c)3 non-profit educational organization. Donations you make are TAX DEDUCTIBLE. If your company has matching, you can double your donation! Donate easily online using PayPal.

Volunteers Needed

Volunteering is a wonderful way to meet new people and serve your community. The Exiles can find a job for you to do. Consider volunteering. It’s a great way to meet interesting people.. [ read more]. Here’s a few events where we can use your willing heart:
  • Our Monthly Programs
  • Play Parties
  • Special events like our Meet & Greet, Carnal Carnival, etc